Hi Jeandow

I have worked with people who have relationship issues and have written an e-book on the subject "How to find the ideal partner" which has been very well received for those  looking or already in a relationship. you can both go through it together or independantly and it will help to give you the answers you need. After all you are the ones who have the answers no one else, when you are presented with the right questions it will be found. Link below.

http://www.7ask7.co.uk/articles.htm#articles

I have to say you are so right. Looking at the relationship long term allows you to go through a much deeper transformation because you are not thinking about your personal here and now, but about the relationship's long term good. It's a completely different perspective...

I am constantly learning from my partner. I always thought my way was the best, but it's not, as I've found out. There are other ways, not better, not worse, but different. And that's ok. Once I allowed myself to see things differently, I didn't feel the need to defend myself all the time. As paradoxical as it sounds, it was easier to see things differently....if you know what i mean.